{"id":1204,"date":"2022-03-01T15:15:52","date_gmt":"2022-03-01T15:15:52","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.stuffbysofia.com\/blog\/?p=1204"},"modified":"2022-03-16T18:58:30","modified_gmt":"2022-03-16T18:58:30","slug":"the-london-years-the-friends-we-found-the-friends-we-lost-16-of-20","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.stuffbysofia.com\/blog\/2022\/03\/the-london-years-the-friends-we-found-the-friends-we-lost-16-of-20\/","title":{"rendered":"The London Years: The friends we found, the friends we lost (16 of 20)"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p>&#8220;Who&#8217;s cooking this time?&#8221; <br>&#8220;The Italian. Have you ever eaten her food?&#8221; <br>&#8220;No&#8221;<br>&#8220;Prepare to be amazed&#8221; <br>I was. Seems like the Med has a knack for producing people who bring other people together around a table, wherever in the world we may be.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><em>Don\u2019t know what\u2019s going on?&nbsp;<a rel=\"noreferrer noopener\" href=\"https:\/\/www.stuffbysofia.com\/blog\/2022\/02\/the-london-years\/\" target=\"_blank\">I\u2019m leaving London soon<\/a>&nbsp;so this is one of my&nbsp;<a rel=\"noreferrer noopener\" href=\"https:\/\/www.stuffbysofia.com\/blog\/tag\/20londonstories\/\" target=\"_blank\">20 London stories&nbsp;<\/a>\u2013 a celebration of 20 years of my life here.<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n<blockquote class=\"instagram-media\" data-instgrm-permalink=\"https:\/\/www.instagram.com\/p\/CakV1psAAgn\/?utm_source=ig_embed&amp;utm_campaign=loading\" data-instgrm-version=\"14\" style=\" background:#FFF; border:0; border-radius:3px; box-shadow:0 0 1px 0 rgba(0,0,0,0.5),0 1px 10px 0 rgba(0,0,0,0.15); margin: 1px; max-width:540px; min-width:326px; padding:0; width:99.375%; width:-webkit-calc(100% - 2px); 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line-height:0; padding:0 0; text-align:center; text-decoration:none; width:100%;\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\"><\/a><\/p>\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/www.instagram.com\/p\/CakV1psAAgn\/?utm_source=ig_embed&amp;utm_campaign=loading\" style=\" background:#FFFFFF; line-height:0; padding:0 0; text-align:center; text-decoration:none; width:100%;\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\"><\/a><\/p>\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/www.instagram.com\/p\/CakV1psAAgn\/?utm_source=ig_embed&amp;utm_campaign=loading\" style=\" background:#FFFFFF; line-height:0; padding:0 0; text-align:center; text-decoration:none; width:100%;\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\"><\/a><\/p>\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/www.instagram.com\/p\/CakV1psAAgn\/?utm_source=ig_embed&amp;utm_campaign=loading\" style=\" background:#FFFFFF; line-height:0; padding:0 0; text-align:center; text-decoration:none; width:100%;\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\"><\/a><\/p>\n<p><a href=\"https:\/\/www.instagram.com\/p\/CakV1psAAgn\/?utm_source=ig_embed&amp;utm_campaign=loading\" style=\" background:#FFFFFF; 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Let&#8217;s start from that. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>First of all, a high percentage of its population is transitory. We come to study or to work for a few years and then we are off. We leave the city &#8211; because it&#8217;s a tough and expensive place &#8211; or we leave the UK altogether. You might have just had a friend for years and then they piss off to Australia. I mean&#8230; realistically you&#8217;re not seeing each other again.  <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Secondly, London distances are no joke. This is a big city and it takes ages to get from one place to the other. Unless you have friends who work around the same area and you arrange to see them after work it&#8217;s highly improbable that you will commute home (on average 45 minutes) and then commute back out for a catch up. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Thirdly, we are all busy fuckers. There are things happening ALL THE TIME in London. Please live busy lives in specific geographical areas and it&#8217;s tough to get them out of that grind. There&#8217;s a running joke that if you want to see a Londoner you have to book time with them 3 months earlier but, while 3 months is a slight exaggeration, we do tend to set things up very early.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Finally, we grow up and we grow apart. Shit happens. A new job. A wedding. A break up where people &#8211; quite naturally &#8211; take sides. New priorities. And&#8230; you know&#8230; a steady reduction over time of our ability to have fun with everyone. We grow, older, more self assured, weirder. Our circle grows smaller. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Thinking about it, I would probably have lost touch with so many more people if it wasn&#8217;t for social media. I&#8217;m an optimist when it comes to tech. Sure, a random relative leaves me personal messages for the world to see under photos but in the main I keep in touch here and there with my amazingly talented Latin American friend or the blonde pop culture dynamo from uni. I mean, I want to know how they are doing and exchange a few words from time to time! <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>To that end, I like what the pandemic did to how accepting we are of just setting up a conference call to catch up. Cause how would I gossip a bit with my Russian friend who moved to the Med and is rocking new interests living her best life?  How would I see my friend who is now in Thailand and her incredibly cute child! <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>To be honest, I don&#8217;t think my mother would have been as cool as she&#8217;s been about me being abroad if she couldn&#8217;t keep in touch via camera from time to time. When I first moved here we were actually using the public server of the Greek National Polytechnic to log onto Microsoft Netmeeting and get a grainy picture of each other. Immigrants have known the value of video calls for decades. But I digress. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Do you know when was the last time I saw my best friend from Uni? MONTHS ago. We both have kids, jobs, husbands and interests. Do you know when was the last time I saw my Greek friend from Oxford? MONTHS ago. We both have kids, jobs, husbands and interests. 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